Harris #ForeverFamilyFriday Story

I think God had been working on our story from the very beginning. Marc and I married in 2001, we had our first and only bio in 2002 and had been trying to conceive another child for several years. We often talked about adoption but didn’t know how to get started or how the process worked. We weren’t really proactive about looking into it. It was more of a casual conversation. We were in the starting process of fertility treatments when one Sunday we found out about The CALL,  They were showing a video at our church. When we saw the need was huge to take in foster kids we knew right away God was calling us to it. Naturally we had a plan, we would foster one at a time until we adopted one child but God had a different plan for our family. We took in a sibling set of two boys when we first opened and within a year we took another sibling set (brother and sister) to keep them from splitting up. We had Five children in our home within the first year of fostering.
Shortly after fostering, we soon understood what God was asking us to do. He wanted this to become a ministry , to reach out and help these families. Pour love into them, support them (within DCFS boundaries) and cheer them on as they got up and back on their feet to work to get their kids back.  We learned to build relationships that lasted , support systems to carry on even after the kids went home. Throughout our 8 year journey we’ve been able to foster over 15 kiddos, adopted 5 and continue to maintain relationships with the families we’ve been able to support. This journey has been such a blessing to me and my family. We are thankful God allowed us to be a part of it.

Bringing Adoption Education to School

Last week, I had the opportunity to speak to my husband’s school about Walk for the Waiting.  Lighthouse Academy has Town Hall, a bimonthly gathering of students and faculty to announce and receive updates about what’s going on at school or in their community.  I was introduced as Mr. Cisar’s wife, and was welcomed with a round of applause (hubby does a great job at work and is well-liked by most of his students).

I began by telling them my story: how I was adopted when I was three days old, how I longed for closure on my identity as an adoptee, and how elated I was when I finally got to meet my birth parents.  I reminded them of how small the world is – I went to high school with my full blooded little brother and had no idea; my older brother that I grew up with went to high school with my older half-brother that I would meet almost a decade later.

This is when I introduced Walk for the Waiting.  I started by showing them the promo video since it summarizes the event so well.  I invited all 300 of them to join us.  I told them about volunteer opportunities, and ways to get involved with their friends.  I encouraged the cheerleading squad to get registered as a team and compete with other school cheerleading squads to see who can raise the most money.

More important than the fundraising though… I brought adoption education into their school.  For some of them, it may have been the first time they’ve heard about foster care or adoption.  For others, they may have been reminded just how staggering the crisis is.  My goal was to encourage these kids to make a difference by joining us on April 30th for Walk for the Waiting.  I want them to engage on social media, posting videos of their friends shouting “NO MORE WAITING!” and wearing Walk for the Waiting t-shirts.

After Town Hall was adjourned, I heard a little feedback from a couple audience members.

Mr. K, Director of Teacher Learning, approached me and shook my hand.  He said he felt the Holy Spirit move while I was talking and that he wanted to see Walk for the Waiting grow and spread.  Mr. K is also a youth pastor at a church in central Arkansas.  He looked me in the eyes and said his church would be participating and doing whatever they could.  I was truly touched.  Did my words seriously bring in the Holy Spirit?  Praise God for being on my lips and moving throughout the room!

Later, a younger girl, maybe 10 years old, came up to me with a big grin on her face.  She thanked me for coming and talking, and said she really enjoyed my adoption story.  She went on to explain that she was at Walk for the Waiting last year and loved it, but had no idea what it was about.  I asked her what she thought about it now that she knows what it stands for and why it exists, and her face lit up.  “Oh yeah!  I want to take a lot of brochures and tell my Sunday school class!”

That little girl is why I want to talk to schools about adoption.  Real, long-term community change starts by educating adolescents and inspiring them to want better for their peers.  I wish I had more time to tell them about what they’re missing in their history and sex-ed classes, like the orphan train and knowing about adoption if ever faced with an unplanned pregnancy (to offer another option instead of abortion).  One of my main messages was to understand the importance of practicing sensitivity and empathy when they meet a classmate that has a different kind of family than they do.

After students started filtering outside and the hallway started to clear, I noticed Danny talking to a student of his named Phil*.  “This is the kid that calls me dad,” Danny joked.  I love seeing the teacher-student relationships my husband has made.  He is truly great at what he does.  Phil looked at me with a boyish grin and said, “Mrs. Cisar, I’ve been wanting to ask you this a long time.  Will you go to prom with me?”  I hadn’t even noticed the group of students that had gravitated over to witness this proposal.  I laughed and replied, “That’s so sweet of you!  Unfortunately, you’re just a little bit too late.  Mr. Cisar already asked me.”

Between experiencing the Holy Spirit, teaching someone about adoption and foster care for the first time, and being asked to prom – my first school talk was something I’ll always remember!  Several other students told me their eyes were really opened and that they wanted to tell friends and family about it.  It fired me up to talk to more schools and introduce adoption to our education system, for the sake of our future generation.

Teaching young people about a cause they can be passionate about and really make a difference for is setting a healthy foundation for them to build on as they go to college and become contributing members of society.

Change begins at home.  Movements begin with passion and unity.  Lighthouse Academy showed me that it’s possible.  We can do this!

Until no more are waiting,

Robyn Cisar

*some names have been changed or omitted to protect the subject’s identity
(This article was original posted on the blog: Robyn, Reunited)

Less than 12 hours to go!

Ready to go!
Ready to go!

The stage is set and ready for the Walk for the Waiting!  Remember, registration opens at 8:15 am at War Memorial Stadium and the fun will start at 9am.  We look forward to seeing you there!





Why are you walking?

Why are you walking?  What prompted your willingness to get registered and become a sponsored walker?  Here’s a note from Kelly White, a foster mom who is chairing these year’s Walk (Go Kelly & Matt!) on why she is walking:

We are walking for the children – those who feel trauma and loss, who long to know God’s love through a family.  Ultimately it is God’s deep concern for these kids that drives everything we do at the Walk.

But another reason I will be walking this year is to support the foster families.  As a fellow foster mom, I understand the day-in, day-out weariness – and joy – that comes with being a healing home.  And in the sea of support blogs for parents out there, there is often a vacuum of support for foster and adoptive parents.  But at the Walk, this isolation is cast off and families are bolsterwhitesed by the encouragement of the community rallying around the mission central to their lives, these precious children.

Last year, my family participated in the walk, and the message of support we received that day was awe-inspiring.  God truly ministered to me that day and the days leading up to the walk.  With every contribution we received, our hearts overflowed.

And this year, I am praying that our declaration of support for these children and the families God has brought to them will be even greater.  That our foster and adoptive families will be renewed.  That the effect of this renewal will be a reignited passion to spread the message about these children.  And that as God’s message is shared, one day we will see no waiting children.

I, too, was very inspired last year to be in one place, gathered with so many families who have answered the call to foster and adopt.  It filled my heart with awe for an amazing Father!

What’s your story?  Would you drop me a note (eric@walkforthewaiting.org) and let me know why you’re walking?  I know there are many inspiring stories out there and I’d love to encourage others with them!

Thanks for Walking and see you at War Memorial Stadium!

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