Fostering was never a part of my plan. But it was always in God’s plan. About 7 years ago, before my husband and I had any kids of our own, he randomly brought up how he felt like we should maybe foster or adopt. Our pastor at church had preached on the passage in James 1:27 where it says that “pure and undefiled religion is caring for widows and orphans”. He took that very literally and decided at that point that we should foster and or adopt. I was most definitely not on board. In fact, I’m pretty sure my response was “nope”.
Over the next 5 years God drastically changed my heart. He placed people and situations in our lives that continually brought up fostering. I fought God and I fought hard. I kept coming up with excuse after excuse of why we couldn’t foster. My loving husband never once pushed me or forced it upon us. God did all the work of changing my hard heart to what He wanted me to become.
In 2015, I finally told my husband that I was ready to seriously consider adoption. I had very strict guidelines on what I would and would not do. (ha!) We started looking into private adoption of a newborn baby and the door was quickly shut for us. So we decided we would begin looking into fostering. Again, I had very strict rules about what was going to happen. I knew that since we had two young biological girls of our own, my main concern was protecting them and doing what was in their best interest. Even after the first informational meeting I wasn’t sure I would be able to do this. I felt completely unprepared and had no idea how it would be possible. A very wise friend told us that we didn’t have to have everything figured out. All we had to do was “Take the next right step”.
So in January of 2016, we began the process of becoming an open home for fostering. My heart continued to be change during the next few months of what I wanted. By the time we were officially open in June, we decided that we were unprepared for any of this and that whatever God wanted to bring to our home we were willing.
In August of 2016 we got our first placement of two girls who were 3 and 6. So we went from a family of 4 to a family of 6, ages 2, 3, 5, and 6, overnight. To say that life was crazy would be an understatement. But God was so good and he continually provided for us. He gave us a peace like never before. He brought friends to us that covered us in prayers. The girls were with us for 16 months before we took them to their forever home in December 2017. It was the toughest 16 months of our lives, but we would do it again.